I have read many books over the last few years about revisiting the past, making amends, righting wrongs done to others, etc. I wonder if this generation is breaking cycles through books.
So many of my age, and the ages of the authors writing these books, grew up with the toxically selfish parents of the 1980s. The ones who regularly declared, "Do as I say, not as I do," and built our relationships on fear and hypocrisy. As our generation has been more vocal about mental health and our childhoods, as we've been more likely to go to therapy and work through things, we are becoming cycle breakers. And this generation of writers is showing that in their books.
We have writers creating characters who apologize for their wrongs and try to make amends, and not always on their deathbeds. They have characters like Hannah in The Summer Pact, who evaluated her family and her fiance and determined they all needed to go because their toxic narcissism was ruining her life. They are taking responsibility for their actions. And because books have to have happy endings, things are resolved, but they also lead you to believe that things could have gone the other way and maybe not had forgiveness granted.I realized that I have been devouring these stories because they are mine. In trying to break my own toxic childhood cycle, I have hurt my children in other ways, and I am actively working to repair those parts of our relationship. I have also stood up for myself and removed cancerous people from my life through boundaries of varying degrees based on their level of toxicity. Seeing someone like me on the page gives me hope, reassurance, and validation that I am doing the right things.
As we move through the new year and all the new it is bringing to our lives and our communities, maybe we can use these characters as inspiration to be better.